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First Weeks

Get a Grip on Your Finances

Need a road map to getting your finances in order? Our experts Ani Mason and Alyssa Rower discuss what you need to know as you head into divorce. Budgeting Typical questions that may arise in a divorce process include: What did I spend during my marriage? What will my...

Who should be on my “divorce team”?

I’ve hired my divorce attorney. Who else, if anyone, should be on my “divorce team”? Many divorces will go from start to finish with only divorce attorneys involved. Other cases benefit from the expertise of other professionals. From our perspective, there’s no right...

Getting Through It: A Story About Fashion

Sometimes, the oddest things can get you through The first weeks after our decision to separate, I walked around in a stunned, anxious limbo.  I moved through the necessary parts of each day-getting kids to school, buying groceries, visiting the doctor, the lawyer,...

So, You Got the House! Three First Steps to Keeping it (Standing)

Phew. Except, now you are the only one responsible for not only making the payments on it, but for keeping it up! And we’re not talking about sweeping the kitchen floor.  We’re talking water heater, boiler, roof flashing, gutter cleaning, pest prevention, and...

On Arrival

You know how whenever you arrive in a city for the first time, the zone around the train station or the bus station is almost always the ugliest and least welcoming? When you are young especially, and visiting a city for the first time, it is easy to get discouraged,...

Coping

Financial First Steps Event with Michelle Smith

Check out this snippet from our Financial First Steps Event with Michelle Smith.

A Barter Life

At my first job, as a summer sales clerk at a hippy boutique, I befriended a woman coworker, who it was whispered, traveled the world by private plane.  This was hard to figure, given that we both made less than $200 a week selling tie- dyed t-shirts.  I asked her...

On Arrival

You know how whenever you arrive in a city for the first time, the zone around the train station or the bus station is almost always the ugliest and least welcoming? When you are young especially, and visiting a city for the first time, it is easy to get discouraged,...

Can You Buy a Divorce for the Cost of a New Vacuum Cleaner? The Down and Dirty Divorce

I learned for certain that our marriage was on its way to extinction when I came across a memo to my husband referring to his recent contract with one of New York City’s most infamous divorce attorneys. After picking myself up off the floor, I figured I had no choice...

A Second Look at the Vicious Cycle of Divorce

I am one of those children of divorce who grew up only to get divorced myself.  It is the typical sad story.  But then why am I so happy? My parents divorced when I was five.  I don’t recall much, other than a hazy impression of my mother arguing with my father while...

Parenting

Talking to your Kids: 6 Pointers

The following comes from Jean Kunhardt M.A, LMHC and Lisa Spiegel M.A., LMHC, the directors of  Soho Parenting, an invaluable resource for families in Lower Manhattan: Simple and Honest: Telling Your Children About Separation Telling your children that you are...

Don’t Be The Toxic Parent This Season

Do You  find yourself doing any of the following? Make your children choose between you and your ex? Argue with the other parent in front of your child? Use your child as a messenger or mediator? Speak badly about the other parent to a relative, friend or...

Co-Parenting- Get it In Writing!

Divorce is it’s own difficult but necessary ordeal to go through when a marriage no longer works. Add kids to the mix and there is a whole other layer of decisions to go through. While divorce is final, parenting is an ever-changing landscape that ties you to your ex...

Giving Power Back to Parents

The majority of couples who choose to settle their divorce outside of litigation - whether they do so in mediation, Collaborative Law or a more traditional, out-of-court negotiation - are motivated to avoid litigation by a concern for how it could impact their...

New Love

We Asked the Founders of a new Dating Website for the Inside Scoop:

Unlike most online dating website and apps, Coffee Meets Bagel was founded by women.  They are  three sisters, in fact, who set out to create a more female friendly website that advertises quality not quantity.  CMB offers only one, carefully vetted match proposition...

Excellent Excerpt: What Is Love? Love Is An Action

Excerpt from Susan J. Elliott's Getting Past Your Breakup When I’ve asked my clients, seminar students, and my blog readers what is the single most helpful thing I’ve said to them, “Love is an action” is in the top three on most lists.  It’s what you do, not what you...

Got Questions on Post-Marital Dating? Ask Ursula Knot!

Dear Ursula, My new boyfriend and I get along fine, I guess, but our pheromones don't. I like his body, I just don't like his smell. I especially don't like the way it kind of sticks to me after we've spent the night together. What's the deal with pheromones anyway?...

Q&A with Dating Night speaker, Barbara Ensor

Meet Barbara Ensor, artist, writer and intrepid dating night panelist. Barbara has big eyes, a blond pixie and can always be spotted in a crowd because she is never without a brightly colored pointy wool hat and usually a bright woolly wrap to go with. Her look is...

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