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Filing for Divorce

Alyssa Ann Rower Family Law Attorney, Rower LLC alyssa.rower@gmail.com Q: What EXACTLY does it mean to “file for divorce” and when should I be doing this? A: While there isn’t just one way to proceed in a divorce case and your particular path will depend on your...

The Hard Work of Getting Back to Work

One of the low points during those first post -split weeks came on a Friday afternoon when my twelve year-old came home from school with his pals. He announced that they would be staying out as late as they wanted that night. When I said no, he puffed himself up,...

Get a Grip on Your Finances

Need a road map to getting your finances in order? Our experts Ani Mason and Alyssa Rower discuss what you need to know as you head into divorce. Budgeting Typical questions that may arise in a divorce process include: What did I spend during my marriage? What will my...

Getting Through It: A Story About Fashion

Sometimes, the oddest things can get you through The first weeks after our decision to separate, I walked around in a stunned, anxious limbo. I moved through the necessary parts of each day-getting kids to school, buying groceries, visiting the doctor, the lawyer,...

So, Who Gets the Friends?

While we applaud Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin's lovely letter informing, um, THE WORLD, of their thoughtful journey through separation, it got us thinking of how little is mentioned in the literature about separation and divorce on what to do about friendships....

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Coping

So, You Got the House! Three First Steps to Keeping it (Standing)

Phew. Except, now you are the only one responsible for not only making the payments on it, but for keeping it up! And we’re not talking about sweeping the kitchen floor. We’re talking water heater, boiler, roof flashing, gutter cleaning, pest prevention, and...

Guest Post by The Divorcierge: Get A Grip on Your Money!

Growing up I was always figuring out ways to save my allowance and have my parents pay for items that ‘should be covered’ by someone other than me. I became a master at saving up for that ‘rainy day’ watching my money grow little by little. When I was finally on my...

Getting Through It: A Story About Fashion

Sometimes, the oddest things can get you through The first weeks after our decision to separate, I walked around in a stunned, anxious limbo. I moved through the necessary parts of each day-getting kids to school, buying groceries, visiting the doctor, the lawyer,...

A Barter Life

At my first job, as a summer sales clerk at a hippy boutique, I befriended a woman coworker, who it was whispered, traveled the world by private plane. This was hard to figure, given that we both made less than $200 a week selling tie- dyed t-shirts. I asked her...

Don’t Twist My Lug Nuts (or How to Really Change A Tire)

Tire tricks for solo travelers Summer is here, and for those of us traveling the highways as women alone, or alone with kids, its good to be prepared for the unexpected. Since my husband moved out, I've had three flat tires, er, make that three opportunities to learn...

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Parenting

Giving Power Back to Parents

The majority of couples who choose to settle their divorce outside of litigation - whether they do so in mediation, Collaborative Law or a more traditional, out-of-court negotiation - are motivated to avoid litigation by a concern for how it could impact their...

Talking to your Kids: 6 Pointers

The following comes from Jean Kunhardt M.A, LMHC and Lisa Spiegel M.A., LMHC, the directors of Soho Parenting, an invaluable resource for families in Lower Manhattan: Simple and Honest: Telling Your Children About Separation Telling your children that you are...

When Your Co-Parent Suffers From Mental Illness or Addiction (Video)

Video shorts feature excerpts from our UNtied panel events. In this short: how to co-parent when your ex suffers from addiction how to co-parent when you ex suffers from mental illness how to co-parent with an uncooperative ex-spouse co-parenting when your ex has...

How to Co-Parent After Your Divorce (Video)

Video shorts feature excerpts from our UNtied panel events. In this short: how to co-parent with your ex how to develop a parenting plan how to create clear rules for both parents tips for reducing conflict with your ex around co-parenting Speakers: Jessica Rothberg,...

Co-Parenting- Get it In Writing!

Divorce is it’s own difficult but necessary ordeal to go through when a marriage no longer works. Add kids to the mix and there is a whole other layer of decisions to go through. While divorce is final, parenting is an ever-changing landscape that ties you to your ex...

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New Love

Excellent Excerpt: What Is Love? Love Is An Action

Excerpt from Susan J. Elliott's Getting Past Your Breakup When I’ve asked my clients, seminar students, and my blog readers what is the single most helpful thing I’ve said to them, “Love is an action” is in the top three on most lists. It’s what you do, not what you...

Got Questions on Post-Marital Dating? Ask Ursula Knot!

Dear Ursula, My new boyfriend and I get along fine, I guess, but our pheromones don't. I like his body, I just don't like his smell. I especially don't like the way it kind of sticks to me after we've spent the night together. What's the deal with pheromones anyway?...

We Asked the Founders of a new Dating Website for the Inside Scoop:

Unlike most online dating website and apps, Coffee Meets Bagel was founded by women. They are three sisters, in fact, who set out to create a more female friendly website that advertises quality not quantity. CMB offers only one, carefully vetted match proposition...

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