The Moment I Knew My Marriage Was Over

When do you really know it’s over? One woman shares that deeply personal, transformative moment.


The Power of Community During Divorce with Elise Pettus (Podcast)


A New Cadre of Experts Helps Women Navigate their Divorces

The women are architects, film industry executives, skin care consultants, product managers at tech companies, psychologists. They have worked in finance, publishing and television…

A Second Look at the Vicious Cycle of Divorce

I am one of those children of divorce who grew up only to get divorced myself.
It is the typical sad story. But then why am I so happy? My parents divorced when…

How to Help Your Friend Through Divorce

Elise Pettus, the founder of, a divorce resource site geared toward women, says lots of divorcées tell her excessive condolence …

Managing After the Divorce
Brooklyn Savvy, Season 11 (podcast)
Dialogue on Divorce
with Elise Pettus (Podcast)
Dialogue on Divorce is a Westchester based radio show and podcast hosted by Katherine Miller.
Listen to an interview with UNtied founder Elise Pettus.

Divorce and the Hardest Work of Getting Back to Work

One of the low points during those first post-split weeks occurred one Friday afternoon when my twelve-year-old informed me that he and his pals would be staying out as late as they wanted…

What Plants Taught Me About My Marriage

Fostering a marriage is all about dealing with less than ideal conditions. Last spring, I bought 18 beautiful specimens of sagina subulata (aka Irish Moss) for a plot in my small urban garden…

Is Alimony the Last Feminist Taboo?

In 2013, the number of households with kids under 18 featuring female primary breadwinners was 40 percent, according a study from Pew Research, up from 33 percent in 2005. And while as of 2010 only 3 percent of men received spousal support from their wives, that number might soon jump. “It’s a huge issue,” says Elise Pettus, the founder of a New York–based support group for divorcing women called UNtied…

4 Ways to Ease the Pain of Renting an Apartment in NYC After a Divorce

Renting an apartment in New York City after a divorce or break-up can be a double whammy: The emotional toll is compounded by the pressure of having to find a place to live, sometimes unexpectedly or without cash reserves or credit history, making what is a challenge under the usual circumstance seem nearly impossible.

How to Survive and Enjoy Wedding Season After Divorce

If you’re in the midst of a divorce or newly single then a wedding might be the last event you want to attend but divorce coach Elise Pettus says go. There are ways to survive and enjoy wedding season after divorce. Is there a time when you should say no to an invite? Can you go solo, even if you and your spouse have not yet gone public with your divorce?

10 Pre-Divorce Moves Every Woman Should Make

1. Phone an attorney (or two or even three) 
I often hear women say they “aren’t ready” to talk to a lawyer. It might be that they can’t yet wrap their heads around what is happening, or they’re afraid they might “escalate things” or they don’t know what kind of attorney they want (a mediator or a litigator?). Do not put it off. Do it now. Knowing early on where you stand and what your options are will help you enormously.

Elise Pettus, Divorce Whisperer, Is Guiding Women Through the Big Split

After her marriage ended abruptly, Elise Pettus did what many before her have done: reinvented herself. Pettus’s new incarnation is as a mentor for others in the throes of uncoupling.


Who can you turn to?
Elise Pettus helps you build your professional and social support team! (Podcast)

This week, Stacy is joined by Elise Pettus. Divorced mom and founder of UNtied, Elise created an online network to connect fellow divorced women and help them re-discover their confidence, post-divorce.

Swing Dancing to the Beat of a New Drum

Back home in New York the following week, I signed up for my first Lindy Hop class. The teacher, a wisecracking woman named Elena had left her banking job years before to become a full-time swing dancer and teacher. Elena taught classes on the basics with a gift for getting us to laugh at ourselves just at the moment we might be tempted to give up in frustration.

“Divorce” (Podcast)

This week Nina and Hillary talk about all things divorce. Elise Pettus (founder of UNtied) stops by to talk about her own divorce experience and offer some helpful resources for anyone in the thick of it.

5 Things You Wouldn’t Expect After Divorce

No one ever plans on getting divorced. Surely, weddings would be a bit less fun if they openly did. But these days, luckily, the reality of entering into the scary, unknown world of divorcee singledom isn’t something you have to go through alone. Founded by Elise Pettus, UNtied is the network and resource she wishes she had had when moving through the many stages of divorce…


This Is How Much the Average Divorce Costs – and Where All the Money Goes

While the cost of divorce varies by state, experts estimate that the average starts with “E” and ends with “xpensive.” According to Elise Pettus, founder of Untied, a support group for women going through divorce, the average couple can expect to spend five figures on their separation.

Wealthy women are outsourcing divorce stress to ‘concierges’

For some women, healing is as simple as finding a network of new friends — a well-curated one, ideally.To move past the pain from her split, Brattke joined UNtied, a membership-based organization based out of founder Elise Pettus’ posh Brooklyn Heights townhouse. Sort of like the Wing for divorced women, UNtied — on the cheap end of the services for divorced ladies, at $35 per month — hosts wine and cheese nights, workshops and expert-led panel discussions on such topics as how to hire a lawyer, parenting difficult teens and sex in midlife.



Who gets the Apartment After a Divorce

If you are thinking about divorce in New York City, you are thinking about real estate.
“The home is almost always the major issue,” says real estate broker Deborah Lupard of Warburg, herself a divorced homeowner in TriBeCa…

Thank you for creating a safe space for women in the different stages of divorce to share, support, and learn from each other. For many of us, there is no community to turn to for support. Of course, our friends and loved ones reach out to comfort us, but connecting with others goign through similar experiences is invaluable.


I got my lawyer through UNtied! I was totally clueless about collaborative divorce before going to one of your panels. UNtied saved me a lot of time, pain and money. Eternally grateful!


At a moment when I was in complete shock, stunned and had absolutely no idea how to proceed, it was enormously comforting and helpful to have a group of brilliant women to turn to, each of whom had suggestions, and stories. Knowing you are not alone is big!