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upcoming events


March 8th-10th

Steve Friedman’s Write Your Story Weekend Workshop has been a true game-changer for the women who have taken it since we first put it together two years ago. A few students have published essays that they started in the workshop, but most have had little interest in publishing. They took the workshop because they were feeling stuck and realized that it could be useful to dig deep and take a second look at their own narrative in a safe, supportive environment.

our mission

We help women to feel empowered as they transition from married to
re-singled, and provide tools and resources to build great new lives.


Monthly panel events related to divorce & beyond, featuring top experts. Evenings include wine & food in a safe, comfortable and beautiful space.

Curated Professional Directory

Check out our listings of lawyers, therapists, finance experts and more who have been voted “outstanding” by our members and vetted by our team.

Livestream & Online Forums

If you live outside of the New York area, you can attend our events by livestream.
Also convenient for those who can’t leave kids at home or simply don’t feel ready to come to a live event.


Workshops offer opportunities to go deeper in a particular area, such as grief recovery or online dating. Led by leading experts and storytelling creatives.

Private Community

Whether you live in the NY Tri-state area, Ohio, or in Brisbane Australia, you can access our private online community to seek advice and support from women who understand what you’re going through.

Social Events

Enjoy the company of other dynamic and thoughtful women who “get it” because they’ve been through it themselves. Join us for laughs, dinners & more.

featured content

Financial First Steps Event with Michelle Smith

Check out this snippet from our Financial First Steps Event with Michelle Smith.

10 Pre-Divorce Moves Every Woman Should Make

When I realized I was facing divorce 8 years ago, I knew that I needed to take action and had big decisions to make. But I was the first in my social circle to split and had no friends to turn to for advice or even a good attorney referral. That led me to start UNtied, an in real-life and online...

So, Who Gets the Friends?

While we applaud Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin's lovely letter informing, um, THE WORLD, of their thoughtful journey through separation, it got us thinking of how little is mentioned in the literature about separation and divorce on what to do about friendships. Here, I've jotted down a few...

Don’t Be The Toxic Parent This Season

Do You  find yourself doing any of the following? Make your children choose between you and your ex? Argue with the other parent in front of your child? Use your child as a messenger or mediator? Speak badly about the other parent to a relative, friend or colleague in the presence of your...

This isn’t your typical support group

Developed by founder Elise Pettus as the resource she wished she had when she divorced, UNtied has become a trusted sisterhood, where women can go for support, wisdom and resources on almost any topic related to divorce.

A community of almost 2,000 women, beginning in the New York City and Tri-State community and branching out via livestream offerings across the United States, UNtied offers a nurturing, upbeat community, meaningful education, and access to the best experts.

from our members

“At a moment when I was in complete shock, stunned and had absolutely no idea how to proceed, it was enormously comforting and helpful to have a group of brilliant women to turn to, each of whom had suggestions, and stories. Knowing you are not alone is big!”


“I got my lawyer through UNtied! I was totally clueless about collaborative divorce before going to one of your panels. UNtied saved me a lot of time, pain and money. Eternally grateful!”


“You have given so many of us the tools we need to stand on our own. Thank you!”


“Thank you for creating a safe space for women in the different stages of divorce to share, support, and learn from each other. For many of us, there is no community to turn to for support. Of course, our friends and loved ones reach out to comfort us, but connecting with others going through similar experiences is invaluable.”

You don’t have to go it alone.