- Make your children choose between you and your ex?
- Argue with the other parent in front of your child?
- Use your child as a messenger or mediator?
- Speak badly about the other parent to a relative, friend or colleague in the presence of your child?
- Ask your child questions about… Continue reading
Thank you to mother and daughter team Barbara and Jessica Rothberg and to family lawyer and author Margy Klaw for delivering lots of straight ahead, helpful… Continue reading
Meet Barbara Ensor, artist, writer and intrepid dating night panelist. Barbara has big eyes, a blond pixie and can always be spotted in a crowd because she is never without a brightly colored pointy wool hat and usually a bright woolly wrap to go with. Her look is part pinup girl, part Laplander Princess.
Those of us who have known… Continue reading
What did we learn on Wednesday’s All About Dating night? That there are wildly different approaches out there! Kari Groff went on a new date every week for over three months. Barbara Ensor crafted an online profile over several weeks and found love with the first man she met through Match.com. continue reading
Last week, I went to the Ackerman Institute’s annual benefit where I ran into Elana Katz, LCSW, LMFT. Elana is a senior faculty member at the renowned center for family therapy, and directs their Family and Divorce Mediation Program. “What I have seen in my practice over the years,” she says, “is that single greatest indicator of post-divorce success… Continue reading
Family Law Attorney, Aronson Mayefsky & Sloan @alyssarower
Q: I read about a case recently in which a prenuptial agreement was overturned. Does this mean I should be hopeful that ours can be challenged?
A: True, there have been two notable recent decisions in New York in which courts have… Continue reading
Think no-fault divorce is a modern invention? Not so! Susan Treggiari, a Stanford classics professor and author of the book “Roman Marriage” explains that ancient Romans were the ultimate realists when it came to marriage. Over a mere few centuries, they developed divorce laws that in some respects are more liberal than many state divorce laws today. Continue Reading…
“Looking for what it is you want to do next? Look for clues in what you loved doing at age eight to ten years old.” Janet Kraus, Serial Entrepreneur, C0-Chair, Harvard Business School’s Executive Education Program
“Home with Kids for Five years? Ten years? Own it! Have confidence in the choices you made–they will be valued in… Continue reading
One of the low points during those first post -split weeks came on a Friday afternoon when my twelve year-old came home from school with his pals. He announced that they would be staying out as late as they wanted that night. When I said no, he puffed himself up, made sure his whole crew was listening, put a… Continue reading
Tire tricks for solo travelers
Summer is here, and for those of us traveling the highways as women alone, or alone with kids, its good to be prepared for the unexpected. Since my husband moved out, I’ve had three flat tires, er, make that three opportunities to learn how to change a tire. Sure, you can call AAA and… Continue reading
Starting this week, I’m in hiding from Audi financial services. They’re coming after me, I know, because I’m on the lam with their property; their 2010 Audi A6 wagon to be precise. I was supposed to turn it in two months ago. I would never do this to Avis or Hertz, but this Audi and I have a relationship.… Continue reading
At my first job, as a summer sales clerk at a hippy boutique, I befriended a woman coworker, who it was whispered, traveled the world by private plane. This was hard to figure, given that we both made less than $200 a week selling tie- dyed t-shirts. I asked her about it one day. It turned… Continue reading
I gave them everything; the richest compost, careful misting twice a day, scrupulous weeding, and heaps of praise. Situated as they were, outside the door where my son plays the piano, they were even given regular serenades. At first, the tiny, stumpy plugs of Irish Moss took to their spot and grew much faster than… Continue reading
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I learned for certain that our marriage was on its way to extinction when I came across a memo to my husband referring to his recent contract with one of New York City’s most infamous divorce attorneys. After picking myself up off the floor, I figured I had no choice but to fight fire with fire and hire the best… Continue reading
Family Law Attorney, Aronson Mayefsky & Sloan @alyssarower
Q: It has been about a month since I paid my retainer, and I haven’t seen much of anything, but I also know the legal process is slow. Any recommendations for how often I should expect to be communicating with my attorney? Is there a step by… Continue reading
Alice Kaltman, LCSW Founder of Family Matters NY familymattersny.com
Divorce is it’s own difficult but necessary ordeal to go through when a marriage no longer works. Add kids to the mix and there is a whole other layer of decisions to go through. While divorce is final, parenting is an ever-changing landscape that ties you to your ex forever. Marriages… Continue reading
Thanks to all of our presenters and to everyone who came to hear them on Wednesday night! It was a fun and informative evening. For those who missed it, we will send out the video to everyone on our list. Be sure you are subscribed!
Sometimes, the oddest things can get you through
The first weeks after our decision to separate, I walked around in a stunned, anxious limbo. I moved through the necessary parts of each day-getting kids to school, buying groceries, visiting the doctor, the lawyer, and the shrink. My body kept moving but I was barely cognizant of what street it… Continue reading
Start by setting a deadline. Need a push? Commit to host something: a clothing swap, a school function, a book group, a family reunion or a mom’s night. Set the date far enough in the future so you have the time you need to get the job done.
Call in some help: If a professional organizer is affordable,… Continue reading
The following comes from Jean Kunhardt M.A, LMHC and Lisa Spiegel M.A., LMHC, the directors of Soho Parenting, an invaluable resource for families in Lower Manhattan:
Simple and Honest: Telling Your Children About Separation
Telling your children that you are separating is a frightening prospect. It is the dividing line between before and after, and for most kids… Continue reading
A lot of us describe the very same feeling. In the weeks following a crisis, life slows down. Suddenly the very air around you changes to some other viscous substance. Reality becomes so heightened it feels like there is space between the seconds. Every color screams and every stranger’s eyes have something to tell you. … Continue reading
It isn’t where you thought you were headed, but who among us ever intends to get divorced?
Here you are. We are so glad to have you.
We are here to assure you that while divorce may be the worst thing you have ever been through, it will get better.
Separation and divorce are painful events. There will… Continue reading
Except, now you are the only one responsible for not only making the payments on it, but for keeping it up! And we’re not talking about sweeping the kitchen floor. We’re talking water heater, boiler, roof flashing, gutter cleaning, pest prevention, and landscape maintenance just for starters.
Whether your ex used to handle everything, or you did most… Continue reading
When I’m traveling, I love a good lobby bar. Nothing says home like a bucket chair and a backlit display of booze. To be clear, I am not talking about very high-end joints, like the Four Seasons, whose posh lobbies don’t really welcome the weary. Nor am I speaking of the utterly dreary tiki bar of the… Continue reading
We all know the old caveat about home renovations and marriage, but I am the only woman I know whose husband moved out the very same month we moved in to our newly fixed -up place! In some ways, this made things easier (for ways in which it didn’t, see HANDYMAN). His stuff was still… Continue reading